Today I have a special gift for you. I officially give you permission to eliminate toxic negativity from your life. This simple shift will improve your mental and physical health and allow you to attract good things. To begin, you must first accept that you are made up of energy, and that people, thoughts and things effect your personal energy field in either a positive or a negative way. And here’s the good news. You are the gatekeeper – and you control of the energy that you allow in and that you hold on to.
This old Cherokee story illustrates my point perfectly.
A wise old man is talking to his grandson. He explains that there is a terrible battle between two wolves takes place every day inside all people.
These two animals symbolize two opposing forces. One is evil, the old man tells his grandson. It is anger. It is envy, greed, arrogance and sadness. It’s the feeling of inferiority and the ego. The other force is kindness, joy, love, hope, serenity, humility, compassion, and peace.
The grandfather explains that the two wolves battle within each of us every day.
When the young Cherokee boy asked his grandfather, which wolf will win the battle, the grandfather responded simply. “The one you feed will win.
Which “wolf” are you feeding?
Wherever you put your focus is what you will attract. Ask yourself, are you focusing on what’s good in your life – or are you letting toxic relationships, thoughts and things hold you back?
I’ve worked with students and clients whose auric field – the layer of energy that surrounds the body – is so littered with psychic debris that they can barely function. They don’t understand why they feel sad and depleted, and they seem to be a magnet for trouble and negativity. As a healer, I can see the debris and clear it away, but the most important part of my job is to help them keep their energy clean going forward.
Protecting your auric field requires stepping into your power and giving yourself permission to “clean house” energetically.
Let’s start with toxic people.
You can recognize toxic people by the way you feel when you’re around them. You’ll notice yourself suddenly ignoring your own needs to accommodate and please them. After a while you don’t know what you want, because you’re so influenced by their judgment. Stop and think about the people in your life. If someone is often selfish, manipulative, and judgmental, or if they belittle you and don’t consider your feelings, clean house! Don’t give toxic family members, friends, or co-workers power over you. Choose to spend little or no time with them. If you have to be around them, shield yourself from their energy by reminding yourself that what they think of you is a reflection on them, not on you.
While you’re working on your energetic “house-cleaning” don’t forget that you might be carrying energy from people who you haven’t seen in years. You might carry the energy of a critical teacher or unloving parent and still be trying to please them to this day! Release yourself from the burden of living up to their expectations, and you’ll feel your energy instantly. shift.
Clearing out toxic things and activities.
Refusing to let toxic people influence you is just the beginning. You might be inviting in negative energy without even realizing it. Are you obsessing about current events – constantly checking your news feed to fret about the latest political crisis or natural disaster? Does social media trigger envy and disappointment that other people are happier, prettier, and more successful than you. How is that making you feel? Does your unfulfilling job or cluttered apartment make you miserable?
In contrast, how do you feel when clean your home, volunteer for a cause that you care about, go on a beautiful hike or take a yoga class?
Make a list of activities that bring you joy, and things that bring you down. Keep track for a couple of weeks and make a conscious effort to keep making your “good list” longer than your “negative list.”
A word about self-talk.
Your thoughts are things, and you have control over them. Watch out for negative self-talk like:
- Life is too hard
- I’ll never be happy
- I’m getting old
- I have bad luck
- I don’t have time to do the things I want
- The world is a scary place
Replace negative thoughts with positive affirmations. Practice self-love and self-care. Give yourself permission to engage in activities of your choosing, things that bring YOU joy. Release yourself from trying to please other people. Don’t be afraid to let go of unfulfilling relationships. Feed the good wolf.